I’m complicated so I’m hard to love. I’m a complicated woman with complicated feelings a complicated story. I’m stubborn because I hold on to my principles, I do not compromise when it comes to love, I refuse to willingly give myself to soulless womanizers and I walk away from places I’m not supposed to be. I am complicated because I have standards, because I think too much and because I need explanations and refuse to settle.

I am complicated because I have emotional reactions, I take things hard and I puzzle over things that might be close to nothing. I am hard to open, removing my layers takes time. I am complicated because I’m not quick to trust people and I take longer to be friendly with strangers.

I don’t believe in making friends as an adult, I find them to be fair-weather friends. I like to be taken seriously, I need others to respect my feelings and I refuse to be played with and thrown away. I have questions and I demand answers, I read signs and I refuse to be an accessory. I am complicated because I test people and relationships, I don’t waste my attention and love on the not worthy. But my door is always open for those who gain my trust.

When we meet, it’s like when two worlds collide. The past is complicated and mysterious and out inscrutable future is yet to unfold. We melt into each other as our relationship gets deeper and deeper. When you see the beauty of a soul, it doesn’t matter how complicated it is. Then you are persistent enough to untangle the most challenging knots. If you are impatient, immature, scared or emotionally distant, all you can do is try but it will get worse, you’ll fail and you’ll walk away. You won’t be willing to understand and figure out or work on things. You will find someone who is easier to be with even if that someone is emotionally drained. Because you’re looking for something easy, someone who does not challenge you all the time – you’ve got your own problems to deal with. Let me tell you this: you will never be bored with a girl who has high standards. A complicated woman will keep surprising you. And high standards come with a bigger prize.

You don’t need a lengthy manual to understand a complicated woman but you better pay attention to her and learn. If you can stay calm and persistent, if you work your way through, you can learn how to untangle that knot and you’ll reach your goal. You know, love itself is complicated. It’s never dull or ordinary. You can’t keep scratching the surface if you want what’s inside. You need to commit. You need to prove yourself, I must see if you’re worth my time. I can do just fine on my own but I need you to take care of me, to be responsible for me and protect me. You can run away if you want but you can never say no to me. Sometimes I’m not sure if my life is really this complicated or I just complicate things too much.

But you must know that my complexity is one of my biggest virtues and I never hide my true colours or play games. Both in easy times and in hard times, complexity is a virtue. Why am I so complicated? I have my reasons. I want to make a distinction between a gentleman and a heartless womanizer. So who would want a complicated woman? Are there any emotionally mature men out there? Men who do care? And men who are patient enough to get to know you? Men who do not give up on you because you seem like hard work? We live in a complex world and in complicated times; there’s no time to be patient with love. Getting to know each other is very time consuming. We prefer yes-or-no questions, easy answers, quick fixes. Complicated people are considered romantic time-travelers.

Do you really think that a relationship is like a watch and the least complicated it is, the longer it lasts? There is no real commitment that lacks complexity. You need to understand that you must let go of simplicity and perfect harmony if you’re looking for love that offers real peace, contentment and long lasting desire.

“and if your heart deems me worthy,
let it pay the price for me,
let our nuptial be the handshake
of adversaries after the sword-play”

(Both manfully as translated by Leslie A. Kery)

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