Attraction is a stepping stone

All species have their unique signals for mate attraction. We call them courtship displays. Dolphins dance around their mates in order to exhibit their desire, great crested grebes present their mates with fish. But what about us? What do we do when someone catches our eye?

Humans seem to be an exception. We are capable of making this very simple process an extremely complicated matter when we finally meet someone special. It’s like being more and more civilized equals to being less and less capable of displaying signs of attraction.

We’ve come very far from bringing a bouquet of flowers. How do we end up saying no when we mean yes and yes when we mean no? What are we so afraid of? And why? Or is it our inability to live without playing games? It might be down to the fact that we can’t believe someone might find us equally interesting even if we actually say what we mean.

It’s because we, humans are so pusillanimous and lack self-confidence. We also lack consciousness and act cowardly. If only we listened to our instincts… We might be able to accept ourselves. Or is it because we feel the need to spice up our ordinary lives? Who knows… I am not here to judge. I, however, think that we’d have it way easier if we learned that ‘yes’ means yes and ‘no’ means definitely not; if we were able to attain awareness of our own inner energies.

What if you actually display signs of attraction? In most cases, we feel attracted to people who seem to be attracted to us; still our guards are up almost immediately. We’re afraid of something that has nothing to do with the other person, it’s entirely about us. We’re not afraid of dealing with another’s affection, we’re simply too scared to open ourselves up.

“When it comes to reciprocated feelings and attraction, the union of energies stir up our feelings, even if we do very little about it” Shan-tung Hsu

Accepting and expressing our feelings is not an easy thing to do, especially if you’ve been repressing them for years or you’ve been lied to, but rejecting new opportunities is not the answer. We eventually become unable to leave our comfort zones and miss out on experiencing new things. New opportunities rise when we step out. We must learn to fly toward the unknown and enjoy the excitement and uncertainty that comes with a new relationship – believe me, you will want these moments to last. Why wouldn’t we do something about it?

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